It is really Great to find them engaged in such onerous task in service dedicated to the Newar cause in a foreign soil where they have ventured out from the homely comforts of one’s own homeland whatever be the problems there not only that of record making power cuts and water scarcity but sometimes of our own people. There they do not have to face such problems like back home yet they are to struggle for their own livelihood taking due care of himself have to support and raise his family paying attention to the education, health and future of their children. It is not that we too do the same thing but mind it, it is in in an unknown foreign soil where they land to make their own that they soon adapt themselves so well and so soon. Again one may say it is human trait and it is the Mother Nature has made them so. Yet I feel it is something in them that make them a class apart though they are one amongst us.
So, they deserve a mention here to start with and our people are known for their loyalty and dedication with which they have earned a name and fame for themselves since the very old days gone by – be it here in Sikkim or elsewhere including our native land Nepal. It is their love and respects that make them think always of our own brethren there back home. Like us they too are hurt when everything does not go well with things that are sometimes beyond our control and try to be with them and reach out to help solve the crises the best way possible.
We sometimes feel helpless to see things going not well and try solving them coming together forming associations under different nomenclature. If some amongst is not very happy with the ideas and different from what they have, it is not uncommon to find some new group of like-minded join hands to have their own way and deliver to the society. It is this feature prevalent worldwide with us that others see our weakness in it and take advantage of this. They dedicate themselves to the cause and prove themselves too in their own humble way more concerned and confined to the immediate circle they are in but this too serves the Newar cause – our prime purpose!
Thus we are happy our own way in our respective society, which is the society we belong to immediately and ultimate goal being serving the greater cause and larger interest in our own little way of our own.
When we come out of it and try reaching larger interest of our own society, many see such efforts as a stepping pad/stone to launch oneself and to satisfy ego and fulfill interest of a few of those in the helm of affairs. In such organizations people often clash out of this ego and to prove him only over and above others. To prove this he goes to the extent of lowering other’s opinion and the person hurt try to keep away not from that person but from the organizations itself that brought them together. This lack of mutual trust and respect to each other’s views and come to a point of agreement but moderator even find himself and fails to come out of the mess so created.
As a result he himself frustrated and find the purpose for which the forum was formed failed and lost in the process. His single handed selfless dedication with which relentless support the forum generated, garnered and gained all over these years goes in waste and his all time and efforts in vain.
With this hurdle on our way to our unity and for upholding it, it is felt necessary to identify himself first with proper introduction to be admitted in such a forum. For this those in the organizing body should also share their own introduction as regards age (if not date of birth), profession and location. This would help us build up mutual trust and respect by knowing each other’s education, dedication and background. In such a case one need be knowing each other in person to person basis as the forum is formed with people from different background and country. Some may know about the person more than others even but what this friend shares with all should help guide and steer us well ahead safe and secure. Of course, all do not wish to show his face or comes up with the other face or something else on the site. Once he is not visible or true to himself a doubt of his identity persists in the mind of others.
So share your own identity first as a Newar - before the Newar identity. This saves us from many problems reaching our goal, I feel.